April 9, 2009
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Speaking of yesterday's "grief burst" and today's grief counseling session, I've come to grasp a couple of things.
One, remember as a child whining to your mother that something hurts when you push it or whatever, to which she would sensibly point out "Then don't push on it!"?
If I want to get into a soggy, miserable mess in no time at all, all it takes is thinking a few "Oh, my Donald!"s in a row.
Does it every time.
So Anne, you dope, don't DO that. Don't string those three words together. It's maudlin.
Two, it's amazing how a different perspective can change how one feels or thinks about something. For instance, whenever I'd see a Prius - especially a white one - on the road, I'd mentally go into "Oh, my Donald!" mode, brooding on how "that's the last car he ever drove", blah blah.
Sheesh. I can be such a Tragedy Queen. It's embarrassing.
What I'm going to work on is instead smiling at a Prius when I see one, with that being a happy thought instead of a sad one. Don enjoyed the Prius he rented for his trip to Corpus Christi. When he was backing out to go return it I was startled because it didn't make any noise, so he rolled the window down and talked to me briefly about it. (He said there's been talk of putting in artificial engine noise as the blind, who rely on sound, cannot hear it and have nearly been hit.)
[slyly] Of course, if grief bursts elicit gifts like my nifty Nintendo DSi, perhaps this plan should be reconsidered.
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Ya can't beat something with nothing, and you can't "not think about" things. So IMVVVVHO, your plan to focus on the happy aspects of those memories rather than the pain of their discontinuance is an excellent one. :birdie: (I think that looks like an owl and you're being wise.)
Excellent plan, Anne. I'm proud of you! What a great idea! :so-cool: :so-cool:
It's amazing how many unexpected things pop up and set me off. Tonight when heading back to wait to go into the choir loft, I found that the hallway was lined on both sides with the lilies for Easter.
I'd had a hard time turning in the order form for a memorial lily for Don, but have been steeling myself for Easter and seeing them. Was totally unprepared for them tonight. :sigh:
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